Relationships

Your experience with relationships is extremely limited so this section is extra important. Relationships aren't just a social concern but a safety one. You never know where these crusty dusty boys crawl up out of. I'll cover both main types of relationships that you'll likely encounter in college.

Friends with Benefits/One night stands

You might think you've had some because you've messed around with some guys but it's veeery different when actual sex is involved. Number one rule: do NOT catch feelings. It's very common for people to get emotionally attached to people they've had sex with (I don't have that problem, stay safe tho) so it's important to stress this part. You both need to be on the same page as to where you stand with one another or else shit gets muddy real quick. When it comes to one night stands, be aggressively careful. Always always always make sure that you guys have the same view of things. If you know that you'll likely want it to develop into something more, find someone who would be cool with that.

Dating/Exclusive Relationships

There is a difference. Anyone that you are regularly going on dates with would be considered someone you're dating. It's a good idea to go on plenty of dates with someone before becoming exclusive, that way you can weed out the weirdos and jerks. Be picky with dates, don't waste your time if someone doesn't put effort into the date and ALWAYS expect to pay for your portion of the date. If they pay, that's cool but never expect it.

Also important, be very cautious and slow to trust when dating new people. Of both genders, of course, but especially guys. I work with sex offenders for a living and you wouldn't believe how charming and seemingly normal these dudes are, and a lot of them aren't much older than you. You'll go to school with multiple future sex offenders, try your best to be diligent so that you aren't the one to find out who they are. We have so many clients that are young, normal looking dudes and it's scary to know that they could just be out on Tinder and no one would have any idea that they're a sex offender. It sounds very cynical, I know, but it will keep you safe.

I know this section was pretty brief but to be completely honest, I'm pretty sure we'll just talk about these things as they come up lol